In Go there is a proverb: “Don’t attach to a weak stone”. Attaching to a stone strengthens the stone you attached to because it starts a fight that your opponent has the first move to.
Take for example below, in diagram 1, black starts the fight with 2. Both white 1 and black 2 have 3 liberties each but now white gets the first move in that fight, hane-ing at 3. This is naturally disadvantageous for black and you can see up to 9 that white has used this aji to already start to make eye shape.
To “wrestle” at close quarters is something you do when you’re in trouble but here, white is in black’s area, the wrestling should be done by white.
In diagram 2, black should instead try to gently surround the white group, taking light jabs at white’s shape, like a group of hunters going after a mammoth. To get too close is to be attacked yourself.